**Hi! Hallo! ¡Hola!**

I’m Charly. I’m a sexologist, visual anthropologist, kundalini yoga teacher and photographer.

I came a long way healing abuse by almost everyone from my core family. The road was hard. I questioned life, love, being in this body. Then I started to question the HOW of life, love and being in my body. And that’s where it SHIFTED. I gained power through being an activist for safety, pleasure and self-love. Of course I’m my biggest teacher.

Today, my passion is to invite human beings to consciously explore they’re own bigness in pleasure and connection, explore what it means to feel welcomed in their lives by discovering safety-informed erotic practices, honouring both their shadows and their light.

Through my compassionate presence I lead you into a space where any problem is seen with respect and understanding, given time and space to surface, be held and healed, yet we don’t stay there. Progressively, with step-backs and jumps forward, my humorous, direct and empathic approach will allow you to enjoy yourself again, from a place of confidence, a peaceful nervous system and gratitude — inviting sex to be a completely natural topic, connected with all the rest. Which it really is – it’s our origin!

I believe our Purpose as Humans is, to celebrate that which brought us here: Sexual Life Force. Yes, that’s the path of the brave. And fuck yes, it is also the one most worth fighting for.

Mother, Father, Sex, Patriarchy. The distorted legacy of our existence reaches deep. When we start to mobilise guilt and shame surrounding our sexuality, we heal both ourselves and our entire clan.

Thanks Life, whatever happens, I commit to loving myself.

Gracias Vida, pase lo que pase, me comprometo a amarme.

Yoniversum, the Sacred Temple. Together we unearth our pain & heal our pleasure.

Yoniversum, the Cosmos of Yoni: Yoni is an ancient Sanskrit term for the female genitals –vulva, vagina, ovaries and uterus– and means sacred space or sacred temple. I came across the term two years ago, when I had my first Yoni Yoga class. I didn’t know what Yoni Yoga was then, nor what to expect. Interestingly my body knew, beaming with excitement of something big about to happen. It was the start of my female healing process and I cried. Because I knew, there was so much more work to do, deeply painful work.. Coming from a wounded mother-daughter-line dating back generations into my female ancestry, I had lived with belief systems of not being worthy of a dignified treat as a woman.

Breast, Buttox and Vulva are Signs of the Goddess Creatress.
Marija Gimbutas, Civilization of the Goddess

In daily life, I used to walk with a mix of shame, guilt and anger infested in my body, manipulating lovers and all other relationships in my life so I wouldn’t be abandoned. I grew up thinking love meant suffering and self-hate and I harvested co-dependent, destructive relationships that would leave me feeling more alone.

Finally, I decided to confront this pain that was stealing my inner peace. I found it in the reconnection with nature, in plant medicine and rituals, with wise women and in looking at the relationship with my mother and — in exploring my sexuality. I understood that my pain and my pleasure were the same. Invisible mirrors of everything inside me that longed to be felt.

The power that came from my journey of sensual self-exploration was incredible. It lead me to who and where I am today: Leading conscious self-pleasure practices, online and in person, 1:1 and in group circles, as a pleasure activist, Pelvic Trainer, writer and Crystal Wand producer.

What if we were not to blame?

What if some 5000 years ago we were colonized by a system of overpowering oppression? What if the latent pain You may have felt deep inside at times, was not even Yours? What if it got instilled in You as the relict of an ancestral heritage, carried out by Your mother, and before her, her mother and before her, her mother, etc.? You think that is crazy? I sure thought it was. And then the walls of patriarchal betrayal started crumbling down: In a fatefully shocking discovery alongside the war in Ukraine, I tapped into the legacy of Lithuanian archeologist Marija Gimbutas who basically discovered the Pre-Patriarchy! Her work should be taught in all schools and is not. Check out Marija Gimbutas here!

The Civilization of the Goddess —Gimbutas’ vast excavations of female figurines all across the European continent hit the nail on the head: They showed that the old civilizations in Europe, China, Tibet, the Near East and Latin America were in all probability civilizations of the Goddess. My whole body was singing. A flash of ideas rushed through my body, connecting it all in a second— this was political sh*t and there was a reason it had not reached me. Until then. What Gimbutas had proved – and what she was unsurprisingly mocked & criticized for by the male science elite, was the evidence of a time when women and men successfully coexisted on an equal footing, for thousands of years. She proved the senselessness of the patriarchal system. From there on, I decided to get serious (as my last name!) and to wake up, so I could help awaken other Goddesses and Gods, to heal from the old wounds of oppression. Yoniversum was born.